By Sonia Baydoun
Unis Middle School
Don’t do it! Put the blade down! There is a better way!Yes it’s true. There are probably a million other ways that self-harmers can deal with what they are going through. The one that has proved most effective to me is The Butterfly Project.
The steps to this project are simple. Draw a butterfly or many butterflies on your wrist, then let the butterfly represent a person in your life that you love and care for, and the butterfly will live as long as you don’t hurt yourself. If you do, that means that you have hurt the person that the butterfly represented.
The butterfly project reminds you that the people that you love care for you as much as you care for them and the worst way that you can hurt them is if you hurt yourself.
The Butterfly Project helped me realize that I wasn’t just hurting me, I was hurting the people I love, too. It helped me realize that I shouldn’t be doing this to myself. It helps you realize that suicide would never be the answer and that you can put the blade down and discover what is hidden underneath all the scars.
According the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, this is just one issue that affects teens’ health and that schools and adults can help with.
This project will help you understand that neither you nor anyone should ever be the victim of self-inflicted pain. This will help you love yourself.
This becomes so much easier when you have someone who has experienced the same thing that you have. Having someone who can understand you better than you can understand yourself is an amazing blessing.
My friend and I have had our ups and downs, but I know that we are always there for each other in the end. Even though I have signed about four contracts not to self-harm, the most binding one was the promise I had made to my best friend.
She first learned about the butterfly project from another friend. “It helped me realize that I loved other people and they wanted to support me and wanted me to be happy and I couldn’t let them down” she said with a very serious look on her face.
“I would help anyone who feels the need to self harm through it because no one deserves to go through thinking that self injury is the answer.” She has found ways to deal with her problems without cutting.
Here’s some advice that many of people would benefit from. “Music, just listen to anything that’s going to help you,” my best friend said. “If you’re going to listen to metal music then scream, if you’re going to listen to sad music, then cry, anything that will take your mind off cutting.
“When you have a friendship like Sonia and I have, then you have to realize no matter how many times you’re angry at each other, that there is no one who is going to understand you better than yourself and the person that has been right there by your side, helping you while you’re helping them go through the same thing you are going through.”
The thing that people with these types of emotions need to realize is that suicide isn’t the answer. That no matter how unimportant you think you are, that there is someone out there who notices your existence. That you are worth something. That’s when you need to take a chance and try the butterfly project and see how much it benefits you.
I remember I was just sitting at school and wanting to scream, there was this heartache that I felt in my chest and I felt helpless and when you feel helpless you know that you have a problem.
I then began to scratch my wrist and then I looked down at my wrist. I saw a butterfly and I knew what that butterfly meant to me and I knew what torture I was putting them through and in that second I just stopped and thought about what I was doing.
Even though I was helpless I was still hopeful. I was hopeful that one day I’ll get to see the sun shine for real. I was hopeful that one day I would be pain free, that one day I wouldn’t have that pain in my chest.
When there is nothing left of you, the ONE thing that you can do is hope. You need to believe that one day every ounce of pain that you have ever felt will just disappear. You need to believe that one day you will be happier then you have ever dreamed of because the one thing that can’t ever hurt you, is hope.
Again, the steps to The Butterfly Project are simple: draw a butterfly or many butterflies on your wrist, then let the butterfly represent a person in your life that you love and care for, and the butterfly will live as long as you don’t hurt yourself.
What could it hurt to try?