By Ghida Youssef
Unis Middle School
Have you ever felt different or ever thought that no one cared? Have you ever just wanted someone to listen and not judge you? Have you ever thought you were fat? Have you ever wanted a friend to fight for you, not against you? A person who can understand that you’re not okay?
A lot of people might feel this way. Some may even think about self-harm, which is a big thing. There is someone for you out there. Someone does care and you’re not alone.
Let’s look at how young people are affected by everything from bipolar disorder to anorexia to self-harm to depression and suicide — and let’s share some suggestions about how people with these problems can get some support.
These problems happen everyday. People judge each other without noticing it. We do it all the time. We judge people by their clothing, size, and looks but if we overlook that we all have one thing in common and that’s a heart. We’re all the same, and we all have are own problems and feelings.
It all starts with bullying, cyber, verbally, physically, etc. Then you start to feel lonely. You can get bullied for many things like your skin color, clothes, sexuality, appearance, and just because you’re acting like yourself. Some bullies want power; they want you to feel bad about yourself. No one really knows why he or she does it. Maybe they had been bullied in the past or think it’s fun.
On the other hand, there are some consequences for bullying. Most students mostly in high school are bullied. Bullying happens to everyone, boys and girls. Girls, don’t forget about the guys. They are just as important and special. I would like to put out that there are a lot of boys who cut, have suicidal thoughts and are anorexic. Please to all the boys, remember that you’re special and beautiful. Victims of bullying can start to feel depressed.
One 13-year-old girl in the Detroit area used to cut but stopped. She also had anorexia. She said that cutting “gave me relief, like all the pain is just emptied out of my body just like the blood.” She said she was anorexic because, “People called me names, and my ex broke up with me and called me fat so I thought that I should lose weight so people can like me.” Be careful on what you say because the littlest words can have a big effect.
In an online forum for youth, Cam, a 15-year-old boy from Florida, wrote, “I’m bullied because I’m being myself. I resorted to cutting, but stopped because it made a special person to me sad.” One person can change your life.
In a chat exchange, a 16-year-old boy named Eddie wrote that he would stay up all night trying to help someone out of suicide. He accepts everyone, and he won’t judge you. He feels like he needs to cut, and has suicidal thoughts and has tried to commit suicide. He also felt depressed, alone, and that no one cared. Everybody deserves a chance so you shouldn’t give up. He likes the quote, “When life gets tough, the tough keep going.” You were given the life you have because you’re strong enough to live it.
Bipolar Disorder is a condition in which people go between periods of good or irritated mood to a depression state. There are a lot of kinds of Bipolar disorder like maniac, hypomania, or depression episodes. Maniac bipolar disorder is when you sleep less, easily get distracted, and have anxiety. Hypomania is when you sleep less, but are not easily distracted, and in this state you may have a depression episode. In the depression state you feel sadness, anxiety, guilt, anger, isolation, or hopelessness. Having little interest in enjoyable activities that you used to like, disturbances in sleep and appetite, problems concentrating, loneliness, insecurity, shyness, and dark suicidal thoughts. Twenty percent of teens will have depressed before they become adults, according to ww.teenhelp.com. The website says that 10-15 percent of teens are depressed at any time.
Furthermore, the world can be a messed up place. The number of people that have committed suicide has increased. Being suicidal means trying to kill your self many times. Some suicides were from the ages of 10 and older. It breaks my heart to see a young life taken by there own hand. In comparison, there is self-harm. Self-harm is bad because the scars on you stay forever. There are a lot of ways to self-harm like cutting, burning, scratching, interfering with wounds, hitting your body or pulling your own hair that it hurts. Another effect of bullying can be anorexia, being anorexic means that your brain tells you that you’re fat when in reality you’re not.
According to the National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Related Disorders, about 24 million people in the US suffer from eating disorders and almost half of them are depressed. Among college-aged women, anorexia is the third most common chronic illness, the association says. There are two types of anorexia. One is starving you, which is called the Restricting Type. The second one is Eating/purging type were you do eat a little but forcedly throw it in other terms this is similar to bulimia. Bulimia is when you make yourself throw up. I would like to say that we are all human and being human comes with problems. Everyone is imperfect because in that word “imperfect” it says, “I’m perfect.”
There are many solutions for bullying. If you see a person getting bullied be an up stander and help the person. Don’t just walk away like you saw nothing. If you think someone is self-harming, then take him or her to a counselor. Sometimes a simple complement helps a lot. If you do self-harm or have a personal problem like anorexia, bulimia, anxiety, etc talk to someone.
We are all human, so then why do we treat each other differently? A bird treats another bird not of it’s own kind the same, so why can’t we? Dogs protect other dogs that are in trouble without a reason, so why can’t we? If we can’t work together and help each other, there is no future for this world. Acceptance is the first thing that leads to peace. Life can be hard. Everyone has been through something.
Here’s some advice if you’re feeling bullied, depressed or affected anorexia or bipolar disorder:
Always try to smile, even though it hurts inside. One little smile is contagious. Sometimes all you have to do is…
1. Stop what are you doing. 2. Close you eyes. 3.Stand in front of a mirror. 4. Open your eyes. 5. Be yourself because YOU are beautiful/handsome.
Listen to this if your insecure- http://a.tumblr.com/tumblr_mghwl1vCh61qhbn26o1.mp3
If you’re feeling suicidal, call-.http://hopeline.com/ or if you just want to talk to a trusted adult that can help you talk to http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/. Bullying is a temporary problem but cutting and death are permanent. Read this if you have attempted suicide or have suicidal thoughts http://www.quotev.com/eddie77/journal/663132/Suicide/